Multiple people with professional bird experience that I’ve spoken with believe so! One noted that a some birds get so “into the scritch” that at times they will lose their balance or cease being aware of their surroundings (as you can see in this video) but that we don’t really know why. It looks like this owl was having a super good scratch, ended up leaning a little farther back that the human was in a good position to support, lost his balance, and recovered. It’s all good and yes, actually cute.
(It’s worth noting, of course, that this is an interaction that can only occur because the person has a strong history with the owl and a lot of previously developed trust. This isn’t something you should ever consider doing with an owl you don’t know and haven’t been trained to work with.)
serebii.net is wild. it’s a relic. this dude has been running a pokemon news website continuously for damn near 20 years. who is he. how does he do it. what is his secret. how did he get so powerful. he terrifies me
Idk if you wanted to vent or if you were looking for advice
from the Old Joey but either way you’re getting it in a comedic fashion because
I am an asshole.
Step one, you say we need to talk. He
walks, you say sit down; it’s just a talk. Basically, first ask him if there’s
something going on with him. Maybe there’s something going on with him that he’s
keeping from you like depression, change in his sexuality (like being asexual),
or if he has a change in emotions. Either way it’s first important to see what’s
on his mind first before communicating what’s on yours. If he says, “nothing”
don’t be afraid to push (in a comforting way) to get him to open up. It’s
important to let him be honest and keep your input out of what he has to say because
that could make him shut down again. Just be patent and you’ll get your turn to
speak.
If he does or doesn’t tell you what’s
going on with him this is your time to communicate what you are feeling, because
your feelings matter too. And if he cares for you enough he’ll agree come to some
compromise so that you’re well taken care of. Keep in mind that y’all should
meet in the middle. No party should be forced to go to one extreme and vice versa.
In an event where you cannot come to an
agreement then separate. I’m pretty cold emotionally and can get over break ups
easily, so for that aspect I can’t really relate to how difficult the decision is.
But I always found that there’s comfort knowing there’s so many people in the world
you can meet. And maybe y’all just need a break to recognize what you truly value
in your relationship.
I hope this helps. Idk I can’t really relate to your libido
issue because I don’t really care for sex in a relationship.
#actually really good advice.
Hey anon, don’t worry about that @ angrysnakes reply. They’re most likely just projecting. There are some valid points they make, but know that it’s not wrong to want sex in a relationship and it’s not selfish to want to have those needs met by the person you are in a relationship with. It’s valid to feel “cheated” when you signed up for a romantic-sexual relationship, especially if the absence of one of those wasn’t properly communicated. But just because your emotions are valid doesn’t mean he’s in the wrong. It’s just a matter of communication.
To re-iterate from Joey: don’t force anything on him and try not to make him feel like the bad guy when you get the chance to speak your mind. You are both a part of this relationship and both have concerns that need to be shared, listened to, and respected.
Hey dude if you’ve got a problem with what I say reblog from me instead of vaguing about me.
1. How am I projecting? Please elaborate
2. I never said it’s selfish to want sex with your partner. I said their attitude seemed entitled: ie. Saying “he NEVER wants to gave sex with me!” When they also state its only been 2 weeks without sex, suspecting him of being ace that comes across negatively (idk how they feel about aces or how much of a dealbreaker it is for them but the way it was phrased rubbed me the wrong way), also the comment of “I have needs too!” As if being withheld from sex for 2 weeks is depriving them of a need. This isn’t just someone with some sexual frustration from high libido and a low libido partner – this is someone that wants sex and they want it when they want it, not even thinking to talk to their own damn partner instead of a stranger! At least that’s how it comes across in the ask. And that’s how I’ll respond to it. Because acting like the victim because your partner isn’t as sexually active as you is gross.
This is someone that is a) failing to communicate with the person involved in their frustrations and b) apparently doesn’t think masturbation is good enough/hasn’t thought of masturbation to satisfy themselves when their partner is up to fucking.
Hahaha, I WAS actually going to reblog from you, but I wanted to start with OP having really good advice. Then I was going to reblog you with a response, but I decided that I mostly just wanted to give anon my two cents and didn’t want to make it “about you” since you made some good points and my contribution wasn’t about saying why I disagree with @ angrysnakes but adding to the pile of advice.
Hold on, imma go eat real quick then I’ll be right back and explain what I meant better 😛
Ok well it doesn’t really look good when you mention my name and say I’m projecting but don’t @ me or reblog from my commentary. If you didn’t want to make it “about me” you didn’t have to mention me at all.
Good luck with your lab!
Yeah, but I wanted anon to know which reply I was referring to, but but you’re right I could have just said “the last reply” but but BUT that feels MORE vague-post to me :T
Anyway, though you made really good points about not being entitled to sex and about communication, it seems to be coming from a personal place that doesn’t want the happiness of both people, but the defence and validation of one. There’s just a real lack of empathy in your response.
Your response seems like you’re projecting your own emotions and experiences on Anon’s bf. Maybe you’re thinking of your own past experience or that of a friend, because you really have no idea what the situation is and you (among other things) reacted with “I think he can do better than you”. Based on what? That Anon wants to have sex more than once every other week and that, to their knowledge and from their experience, that is normal for a relationship? It’s pretty self-centric of you to assume that two weeks is not a long time between sex.
“I have needs!” They do! Sexual desires from a high libido cause frustration and loss of concentration. It needs to be released. “Masturbation and toys if needed, duh” you say, yes. But this person obviously wants to relieve themselves by way of their bf, as is expected of a sexual relationship. Maybe they haven’t even thought of toys because it’s so ingrained that people fulfil their sexual desires with their partners. Anon doesn’t know WHY their bf isn’t having sex with them, they only maybe suspect asexuality. If the bf IS asexual, it is the fault of him not communicating with THEM in the first place. He should have let them know that sex was not something he was super into (which is important in starting relationships with allos)
By saying that Anon feeling lost and frustrated to the point they are going to a stranger to talk about it is wrong and shows an unwillingness to communicate is an unfair assumption (plenty of people have been going to strangers to talk about their problems since newspapers E.g. “Dear Prudence”), and, again, invalidates their feelings as an individual and tells them “You’re not allowed to feel lost confused or you’re being selfish and a bad partner who doesn’t deserve them”, and that just pushes the person away and shuts them down.
The goal is to help BOTH sides, not to attack.
And as an aside: Some people are fine answering personal asks and listening to venting. Yes it’s good to remind people that you shouldn’t just emotion-dump sensitive topic on strangers cause that could make them really uncomfortable, and that there are professionals, but again, you gave this advice in an overly-mean way. I can’t hold it against you though, ‘cause I’m attributing this to that weird rising anger as you type out a heated response to something you disagree with.
Summary: You’re right but I think your delivery is misguided 😛
dude @probablysomefatchick there is literally nothing in @angrysnakes response that sounds like he’s only wanting to see one party’s happiness. he’s extremely clear with driving home “you two need to talk about it and you shouldn’t expect either one to compromise on one extreme”
he’s just not babying the anon. which, in all honesty, is the right move, bc the anon is really fishing for “oh yeah you’re so right and your bf is so wrong!”.
no. both parties need to say what’s important to them, and figure out if they can compromise so that neither one is sacrificing more than the other. if they can’t, then they need to break up if it’s something that important to their lives.
and I concur, the “it’s like he’s asexual or something” is rude enough to earn an eye roll. it’s a blatantly negative comment, like being asexual is just hideous. what’s hideous is the anon’s sense of entitlement. just bc you have a high libido doesn’t make it someone else’s problem; it’s YOUR problem. if your partner wants to compromise to help you with that, then great! if not, then leave that poor guy alone. a romantic relationship doesn’t inherently mean a sexual one, and you’re a self centered brat at best for assuming you should get paid in sex on a preset (but not previously discussed) frequency, and have the gall to try and paint your bf as the bad guy bc he won’t read your mind and/or put out enough for YOU.
unless you’re the anon, @probablysomefatchick, bc then your overly critical analysis of OP’s very neutral response makes more sense.
“why do lesbians hate men” son almost all women hate men, lesbians just have nothing to lose by saying so.
also have any of y’all listened to a country song made by a straight woman? literally nobody in the world hates men more than a straight woman who has had enough.
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